Male Escort Melbourne – 14 November 2021
In today’s fast times of scrolling rather than reading, texting instead of talking, and attending important business meetings instead of spending more quality time together with your partner or family, sex and intimacy in general take a back seat, often too far back.
Though the past couple months of pandemic did slow things down and lockdowns forced loved ones to stay together at home and spend more time together, this period brought its own set of problems along with it, introducing new reasons or replacing some old ones of stress in the fold.
Well, some people say that sex in itself is a great stress reliever, and duh, I totally agree. But, there are some situations where even sex can’t come to your rescue unless you tackle the very roots of your stress and take steps to manage it. So, here I am, your love doctor, to tell you what can be done to alleviate stress.
Talk, really talk to your partner
Is your stress because of some external factor or something right between the two of you? How is your relationship right now? Have either or the both of you harboured some grudge or resentment inside that’s unexpressed or unresolved? According to this study on sexual behaviour, relationship stress is one of the strongest factors contributing to low libido in men and women alike.
Remember, it’s not you against them, it’s both of you against the problem. Have a real talk with your partner. It’s highly likely that things will not sort out in just one conversation. Don’t give up, and talk it out, probably in multiple sessions and try to find out the real problem. Once solved, your (or their) libido might be back on track before you know it!
2. Technology shouldn’t be your bedtime partner
Well, it’s your partner who should be beside you (or, on top of you ;)) on the bed, not your phone or laptop or tablet! Seriously, ditch those libido killers before bedtime and spend some quality time with your bae, not your phone! Unlike lifeless tech gadgets, human relationships need dedication and nurturing, and you need to be mindful of that. Of course, the same applies to your partner.
While you’re at it, why not create the right ambience? All it takes is dimming the lights or probably lighting up some aromatic candles and playing some sensual music. Put some effort into getting in the groove and you might be rewarded!
3. It’s all about the journey
Still not getting in the mood? Chuck it. Yes, that’s what I’m saying. It’s not all about sex all the time! Relieve yourself from this pressure of “achieving the sex nirvana” for some time. Instead, just enjoy the journey, take little steps! There are so many things you can do to create an amazing experience. Here is my secret mantra: *drumroll* Kiss! Hug! Cuddle! Spoon! So many not-so-sexual yet intimate things are available at your disposal.
These warm activities not only help you relax and relieve your stress to a great extent, they also build the intimacy you have with your partner and bring a sensation of you being in this ‘together’.
4. Consider couples and/or sex therapy
When all is said and done, sometimes we have to accept the fact that it might not be possible to solve something on our own and we might need some professional help. There’s no shame in that. This is a step in the right direction, and it shows how dedicated you are in overcoming your relationship stress.
In couples therapy, the therapist will improve your communication, identify the core issues and guide you on how to resolve them, and help you understand each other better.
On the other hand, sex therapy, as the name suggests, focuses on sexual issues in particular where the sex therapist will help you and your partner understand each other’s sexual needs better, and they’ll also help you how to communicate your sexual needs in a better and healthy way.
5. Give open relationship a thought
Don’t get me wrong, I’m all in when it comes to resolving differences and making everything great again between the both of you, but sometimes there’s a phase in your life where you might need some companion other than your partner to foster a fresh perspective and experience in your life. This might be something temporary until you feel there’s no need for it anymore, or it might be long term.
The thing here is, it’s better to keep this transparent to your partner so that you both are on the same page, and there’s no misunderstanding later on. Read a short story here that I wrote along similar lines.
“The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.”
— William James
