Is there a right amount of sex? How much is ‘enough’ or ‘healthy’?

Male Escort Melbourne – 22 January, 2022

There might be times when you’re ‘in the mood’ and your partner just doesn’t seem interested at all. It might even feel that they’re in a different emotional plane than yours altogether! In contrast, there are also times when the roles get reversed, no matter what they do to get you in the groove, it just doesn’t seem to work. You can’t be bothered at all.

Phases like this when you’re not in sync lead to a decline in the frequency at which you get intimate, especially at times like this when uncertainty looms all over us, affecting our mental health and well being. Here’s how you can deal with stress.

So, it’s obvious your mind will be riddled with questions, like Are we having too less sex? Is it normal? Or should there be a right amount of sex that’s considered healthy?

How much sex should partners have?

According to statistics, 20-30-year olds get in the sack twice a week on an average, while this number declines to once a week for 40-50-year olds. So it makes sense to say that you can consider once a week as a safe baseline. But honestly, you and your partner as individuals have your own unique lives that you should take into account. Don’t be pressured by some statistic that keeps changing every couple years anyway.

Love doctor tip: There are couples who have little to no sex in a week but they are satisfied and fulfilled in a relationship. On the other side, there are some couples with highly active sex life but still feel miserable or unfulfilled in their partnership. This is enough to infer that the amount of sex really depends on how much you and your other half want or need, and how much is enough to make you both feel satisfied. There’s no fixed metric.

How to get in sync when one wants it more than the other

There’s one popular myth that almost everyone seems to have. More often than not in couples, sex is not the real problem, getting to it is!

You’ve to understand it takes two to tango. For instance, if your partner really wants it one night but you’re not in the mood, then unless it’s not possible for you at all, try to meet them in the middle. Who knows, you might even get in the mood after the efforts you put in!

Let me break it to you – contrary to what you might believe, it’s very, very rare that at any given time, a couple’s desire for sex is completely aligned. It’s all about balancing and adjustments, like the other aspects in a relationship. There might be times when one partner has it more than they like and the other less than they want to. Understand when you should give more to your partnership and also where your boundaries lie. 

Communication is of the essence

It goes without saying that communication is key in any relationship—not just general communication but sexual as well. 

When you go through some asynchronous phases in your sexual life, it’s important that you keep the communication lines open with your bae. Otherwise in the worst case scenario, they might fill in the blank themselves, often thinking it’s them who’s to blame, digging deep into their own insecurities and refraining from communicating openly further at their end. You can explore this blog that explains 5 ways through which you can improve communication in your relationship.

Parting words

I really hope it gets better and you find some help after reading this. If you feel you need further help, it’s always a wise idea to consult a good therapist. See you in the next blog post!