It’s all about you

It’s all about you

4 February 2015

Have you ever stopped to wonder why some people continually buy expensive jewellery, designer handbags, shoes or, maybe, sunglasses?

A second but slightly different question is: have you ever wondered why some people who are certainly not rich also buy expensive designer wear or items which the “ordinary” person may choose not to purchase owing to the relatively high price?

At the end of the day, life is there for the living. Yet you can’t deny that life is kinder to some than others, in terms of things such as financial abilities, business sense, good fortune, good looks, even the way you appear to others.

So when I say that just because people buy expensive designer goods you shouldn’t automatically assume that they are rich—it simply means that they place a value on the way they feel and look. They take pride in their appearance and the way other people see them.

Each to their own, of course, and some people can be happy and confident without pricey accessories. 

A lot of people just love jewellery, and like the good feeling that it brings to wear it. That’s great! Feeling good is important, and if jewellery helps in any way, then go for it!

Some people like designer products, and like to pay a bit extra for good quality. As William Foster says “Quality is never an accident; it is always the result of high intention, sincere effort, intelligent direction and skillful execution; it represents the wise choice of many alternatives.”  🙂

Or, some people may be at a stage of their life, where it’s all about a journey of discovery and about regaining their sense of self worth, about gaining their sense of self respect or self confidence. Finding the best way to get over life’s seemingly never ending challenges and looking to the future.

They may use accessories as “props” to help them get over the bad times, whereas some people need the more human based interactions with someone like me or their therapist. Someone who is there in a non-judgemental way to encourage and cajole; to empathise and suggest; to give that reassurance and hope that everything will be better in the future.

In my case this can be physical or non-physical. A lover or a friend. Someone to hold and caress you and make you feel good both emotionally and physically; or simply someone to give you a great massage and help let the cares of your day or week gradually melt away. The third option I can offer is just to talk about it—and you’ll be surprised what a good chat with a good listener will do for you. Let it all out into the open as it were—without any worries about confidentiality getting in the way.

As the title of this blog suggests: it’s all about you. So, if you need gold or silver or a Chanel or Prada bag, go for it. 

If you need a lover or good friend, I’m here!